[ Whoops. Virgin ears, she'd forgotten. It's so hard to remember that people have shame anymore when hers fucked off like a half a year ago now... Vanyel doesn't seem to be the kiss and tell sort but she also doesn't think he minds. Considering he's wearing his collar out and about often, that's about as loud as they can get about the kinkier things they're about these days. ]

You don't have to be okay with it but you can't be responsible for what happens to other people because of what they decided, [ she says to that. ] If Vanyel or Farraige got hurt trying to protect me, I'd feel guilty as hell. But it would have been their choice to and not something I could blame myself for even if I thought I should. Easier said than done, I know, but- It's not a bad way to try and think.