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04 🕷️ text ; daemon : happyd

Hello there friends and neighbors of Xistentia! This is... a fellow citizen like yourself!

[ He thinks this is set to post anonymously. Oh no, Peter. ]

And today I come to you with a question of the more personal nature;

Once you've gotten yourself a boyfriend, or a girlfriend, what are you supposed to do next?

[ Oh no, Peter ]

Also, what are some things that make someone a good significant other?
I'd like to get an idea and a little bit of insight. I'm still pretty new to relationships.

[ Peter. No. ]

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Peter why

wait...what??!
how did you know it was me???

[ He's clearly only an teenage genius sometimes ]

Sometimes I wonder how we got into the same Science and Technology school.

look the technology here is WAY different than any of the technology back home.

It's not that different.

it is when yours is always trying to sabotage you 😫

It's just trying to help you.

Usually that's where dates come in.

This might not be home but you could still make it work. Talk to them and see what they'd like, that usually works for me

Talking is my tip for being a good boyfriend, too. See also: Listening. Always a plus.

dates? hmm.
i'll have to check out some of the places around to get some ideas.

so good communication, right?
that's what i've always heard is important

yeah, exactly. especially when you argue, because believe me, you will.

just try to listen, and you know. remember that she, or he, probably has a point even if you can't see it. and if you can try to see it, maybe you'll get through it.

[ He hopes. ]

talk to them if you're worried, kid. that's what the whole communication deal is all about.

yo, dude
congratulations on the boyfriend and/or girlfriend

as for what comes next, well...
that depends!
how serious are you guys?

to be a good signifigant other, communication is key!

[ Haha, that's rich coming from Rosie. ]

oh haha 😅 😅 thanks, i guess!

well... we only just became official.
so serious enough???

[ How does he even measure that? Help. ]

i've heard this before!
so some of those old sayings are true, huh?

ooh, official!!
exciting
have you done the do yet
(you don't have to tell me I'm just nosy 👀)

[ This is cute. He's cute. ]

that they are
who would've figured?

[ Done the do? It takes Peter a moment and it's a good thing Rose can't see his face, as it's currently bright red. ]

oh. well.
uh.
no. we haven't. we're taking it slow, i guess?

[ Oh no, she made him a tomato. Now that she'd love to see. ]

that's totally fine!
whatever you guys are comfortable with
just know if you ever need any pointers
I have two boyfriends so I have lots of experience

Well... Hang out with each other. Do nice things for one another. Treat them like you would a friend that you kiss occasionally!

[Okay he's done way more than kiss with Rosie, but the logic is sound, right?]

oh...
really?
that sounds easy enough!

[ That... kind of sounds like exactly what he'd been doing before. ]

that's been my plan of attack this whole time pretty much 😂

Don't worry about making things overly complicated. Just show your partner that you like them and everything will work out!

Perform a series of tests to see whether they can meet your standards.

......
but this is supposed to be for a significant other
not a potential test subject

I don't see the difference.

....what? how?
there's a HUGE difference.

You have to be sure. Otherwise, why bother?

What you 'should' do next is whatever you both wish to. Have a discussion if need be.

I am very new to romance so please bear that in mind, but I what I believe makes someone a good partner is someone who:

Has respect for you, themselves, and others.
Has similar morals and values, even if they do not hold similar beliefs.
Has some shared interests.
Is open and honest.
Makes you feel happy and secure.
You can invision yourself spending many years with.
Will speak up if they have concerns, and will listen if you do.
You can spend time with in comfortable silence.
Understands you both have your own lives and goals, and will compromise with you.
Has compassion.
Is kind to animals.

There are many other things, but this list has gotten rather long and those are the ones I believe are of the most import.

[ she is a bit of a sap and just described some of her favourite things about her new husbando. but aymeric is mr. perfect so she's sure it all works universally!! ]

[ It's honestly a little surprising that Peter isn't writing all this down. ]

wow! that's a very specific list you have there.
but, those are all really important things.
have you found someone yet that fits all those qualities?

I should hope many people meet a majority of those requirements, as they are quite basic parts of being a decent person.

My husband fits all of them.

[ she wonders if calling him that will ever stop being weird. ]

[kurt's first instinct is to tell peter that he's definitely not asking this anonymously, but someone else has already beaten him to the punch, so--]

i don't have a significant other yet, though there are many things you can do that will help you be a good boyfriend.
going on dates, listening, communicating, letting them know how much you care however you can.
being straightforward with issues that you both may have is important, too, and no matter what: always give a hundred and ten percent.

oh, and don't worry about being new to relationships.
you're certainly not the only one.

[but let's not toss out names willy-nilly or anything.]

i'm seeing a bit of a common theme here.
listen and communicate!
it seems like it's easy enough to do, but i have a feeling it's one of those that looks that way on paper

ahaha 😅 i suppose it's one of those things that everyone is new to at some point in time, right?

at times, it can be, but as long as you're truly putting your all into understanding and appreciating your partner ...
but yes, listening and communicating are key.

correct! i'm dealing with a bit of my own new stuff at the moment.
never feel bad about being new to things, either.
the only way to learn is by experiencing them.

Is this your first relationship?

uh. well...
yeah.

that's not a bad thing is it?

[ He's a late bloomer, okay? ]

No, it's kind of cute but the answers to your questions are kind of personal and a case by case basis. Different people value different things.

i think this is where you enjoy one another's company. talk, hold hands, dance, laugh, kiss. until you're ready to do more.

it sounds a lot like you do the same things that you did as friends
but with the added bonus that sometimes you also get to kiss them.

[ Some people also kiss their friends, he supposes. But he's not one of them. ]

when it's laid out like that it really doesn't seem very difficult at all.

exactly. i believe that if you're their friend first, you don't have to worry as much about being a good boyfriend, or girlfriend. it will just come to you naturally.

sort of like knowing when to tilt your head when you go in for that kiss.

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